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Thursday, January 03, 2008

A new year, a new beginning and good / bad memories of past year. We had a fun time celebrating countdown & of cos the nice food BBQ by the guys. Time to make some resolutions for the coming year because I believe that if we fail to plan, we plan to fail. 2007, is a very trying period for me whether is it for my work, ministry or marriage. God is indeed faithful throughout this time as He strengthens me every part of the step.

Here are some snapshots of the time @ East Coast.

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Thursday, January 03, 2008
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Thursday, December 13, 2007

24th Sea Games 2007

Rank	Country				Total
1	Thailand	121	102	85	308
2	Vietnam	59	43	61	163
3	Malaysia	45	38	72	155
4	Indonesia	38	47	66	151
5	Singapore	38	33	32	103
6	Philippines	33	54	78	165
7	Myanmar	8	19	29	56
8	Laos PDR	4	2	24	30
9	Cambodia	2	3	8	13
10	Brunei Darussalam	1	1	4	6
Last Update: 13 Dec, 13:03 +7 GMT

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Thursday, December 13, 2007
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Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Food Feast - all the way to Geylang to eat our long awaiting frog porridge. in the midst of eating, we talk about fulfilling our destiny especially in the area of pursuing our studies. Many love to continue to study in their area of interest but perhaps blog down by financial issues while others are not sure of the area of pursue should be.

It takes decision and willingness to sacrifice certain areas to attain advancement. "No pain, no gain" The more we rationalized, the more indecisive we can be and of cos the longer it will take to fulfill our destiny.

To accomplish great things, we must dream as well as act (Anatole France, 1844 - 1924)

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Wednesday, November 28, 2007
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Wednesday, August 15, 2007

All of us have a dream house whether in what kind of condition, shapes or sizes, colours, etc, we want it to be the most comfortable that we can stay in.

Like what Apostle Paul says in 2 Corinthians 5, we want an eternal heavenly dwelling where the Lord builds for us. It will not be destroy by any form of disasters / decay / wars but continue to stand forever.

Therefore whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven. Do not just build your earth house & forgot the heaven house that you are going to live for eternity. Remember to send enough materials so that your house will not be like a hut but a mansion.

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Wednesday, August 15, 2007
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Friday, August 03, 2007

This is my first time to attend live NDP and the atmosphere was excellent. When we reached City Hall, there was a huge crowd quening there with many of them wearing the "red" uniform. My dear & myself happily waitet, got our goodie bags & proceed to the "BLUE" section which was good enough for an overall view of the parade.

Theme for this year is City of Possibility which sounded good because with God all things are possible. Therefore this year, you will see all the SAF high tech equipments coming on display. Generally, we enjoyed the time there & see the process of how the nation of Singapore grow from a small island to a developed country. May the Singaporeans all over the world celebrate the birthday of Singapore with great expectations that this year will be an exciting one.

Here are some of the interesting / nice snapshots of the NDP 07.

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Friday, August 03, 2007
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Friday, July 27, 2007

When the going gets tough… the tough do not get going. And they certainly don’t go shopping.

They don’t?
No.
Then what do they do?
They get… thinking.
So when I lose my job, my marriage is on the rocks, my kids are on drugs and I am two months behind on my mortgage or rent payments, I am not supposed to “get going” and push myself to solve my problems?
Right.
Just “think”?
Uh-huh.
And that’s supposed to help?
It’s the first step.
How, exactly?

When I am faced with a crisis, the first thing I need to address is my “thinking” or “mindset.” If I see the issue before me as a crisis or problem, then I have adopted an adversarial or “fighting” attitude towards it. A more productive attitude is to view the crisis as a challenge or puzzle to solve, or, if not to solve, at least to deal with. It is not there to “break” me, but to bring out some hidden strength or ability from within me. It doesn’t make me evil or bad or a loser. These difficulties are not sent only to me. Everyone faces difficulties in life. If I am willing to adopt this attitude, then I can “make friends” with the challenge, and then I am much better equipped to deal with it.

Isn’t that just a mind game? By calling something a challenge instead of a problem, aren’t I just fooling myself?

Not really. By abandoning the attitude that the world is out to get me, I transform debilitating negative energy into positive practical energy, which I can then use to help me solve my problem. My challenge is to harness as much of the mental and emotional energy at my disposal and make it work for me, instead of letting my pent-up anger and negativity drain me. This “mind game” has very real effects. Look at it this wayit takes thirty-eight facial muscles to frown, and only eighteen facial muscles to smile, so it makes sense to save my physical and emotional energy, and smile at my problem.

But, why me? Always me! Why does everyone else have it so easy?

First of all, it’s not true. Even though it may appear that everything goes smoothly for my neighbor, friend, or boss, it is simply not true. That person may not be going through what I am, but each person faces challenges tailor made for him or her to bring out their unique hidden strengths and abilities. Each person has a unique array of inherited DNA, genes and chromosomes and a special set of parental, social and economic circumstances that make up his or her personality. Just as there are approximately six billion different human faces in the world, so too there are six billion different, special and unique individuals in the world, each with his or her own challenge. I am unique in the universe. No one else has my set of abilities and weaknesses, therefore no one else has my set of personal challenges.

Now, when a difficulty or problem comes my way, I must realize that it has never been presented to a person with my genetic or behavioral makeup ever before in world history. This is my special project or mission, for better or worse. It has my name on it. Only I can solve it or deal with it, in accordance with my unique set of abilities and weaknesses. My neighbor’s marriage, job, house, and all of his or her issues are his to deal with. Looking over my shoulder or envying the situation of my neighbor is merely a waste of personal energy that I should be conserving to deal with my own challenges.

Now, when the “going gets tough,” I consciously step into my “thinking mode” and view the difficulty as my unique challenge. I will be able to factor out any “why me?” issues and be able to focus on the task at hand of dealing with my challenge. I will not waste physical or emotional energy by comparing myself to others, but I will harness all of my special strengths and abilities to enable me to concentrate and deal with the issues before me. Therefore, when the going gets tough… the tough get thinking, and step into the positive mindset that is best suited to help meet the challenge before them.

All will go through different stages of life but when the rubber meets the road, what would you do? ? ?

What a question to ask & ponder about? But since we are all surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perservance the race marked out for us.

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Friday, July 27, 2007
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Friday, June 29, 2007

What is a System? Basically it is a set of elements standing in the interaction between and among parts, in such way that affects one part of it affects the other parts. In other words, in a family there are different systems and every little shift in one part would affect the response on the other components. Looking at this angle, many of the presenting problems encountered with individuals are often stemed out from the issues occurring in their family systems. Hence when engaging in helping, we got to look at the family system to understand the fuller picture of the causality. Causality in family system is not linear but rather in a circular manner whereby the response of one part continually influenced the other parts of the system.

Fundamental characteristics of Systemic thinking

Wholeness - the family is functional not matter how bad the situation seemed to be in the perception of others. Viewing the family as a whole and seeing the interaction of the members (This can also include others sub-system of that individual, ie. friends, colleagues, and believers)

Boundaries - "Who is in and out of the system". Most of the time, people limit who should be in the system and who is out and hence creating boundaries.

Hierarchy - Power control in the sense who has the final say in the system. Who holds the "Yes & No" answers.

Therefore working in a systemic manner gives the helper a fuller view of how the issues might be precipitated.

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Friday, June 29, 2007
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